Date night is probably a rare occurrence if you’re a busy parent, and what parent isn’t. It probably involves some intricate logistics. Trust me I understand! Family life keeps us so busy that more often than not, date night is the last thing on our long list of to-dos. I have laundry to do, I can’t find a sitter, money’s tight, or I just simply do not have the energy. Those are all the thoughts that fly through my head every time I consider scheduling a date night with my hubby.
I know that if I allowed myself to, I could find just about any excuse as to why the husband and I can’t spend quality time together on a date night. Really, it’s not because I don’t long for those carefree hours together, because I often do, but rather because at some point after our second child was born I started accepting the fact that finding alone time as a couple can be nearly impossible when one has kids. After the birth of my second baby, I also allowed guilt to set in and convinced myself that everything we did had to involve the kids. Why? Because it’s what parents do. It’s how families work! Isn’t it?
As parents, we work so hard to give our kids the things we think will make them happy, sometimes clearly forgetting that our children’s happiness heavily relies on our own happiness as a couple. As parents, we want nothing more than to give our children with a happy childhood and a loving home to grow up in. Too often all of our time and energy is dedicated to them. We think that this will keep everyone happy. Well, I’m here to tell you that it won’t!